So I take my job as a Mum pretty seriously.
I have certain things that I stick with, and certain ways I (usually) speak to my children. I hope to act out of love, and I hope that I will be proud of who my kids grow up to be.
But there are some things in particular that I hope they learn from me. I want to be the person that they can tell everyone taught them all this awesomeness.
And here are 20 of them…
- The Beatles are probably the best band in the entire history of the world. I mean seriously. Are there any better lyrics than “I am the egg man, they are the egg men. I am the walrus, goo g’joob”?? The answer is no. No, there’s not.
- It’s not okay to settle as a Muggle. Clearly I am a witch, and am still waiting on my letter to Hogwarts. And so clearly my children are also waiting for their letters to Hogwarts. Duh.
- Violence against anyone, whether about sex, race or religion, is never okay. Ever. Hating someone for what they look like, or what they believe in is despicable and deplorable. Love. Love is always the answer.
- Decisions should always be made with knowledge. If you don’t have the knowledge, find it. Read, have conversations, find a way to find the knowledge. It’s there.
- Never settle. If it’s not exactly what you want, don’t settle. You deserve what you really want.
- Don’t mind read. You can’t. So don’t. Don’t pretend (not even to yourself) that you know what the other person is thinking. You need to talk. Ask them what their intentions are, what they meant to say. Trying to mind read causes problems and drama. It’s not worth the pain.
- Books are always better than movies. Always.
- It’s okay to put on a gorgeous dress and a full face of make up for a day at home. If making yourself look beautiful makes you feel beautiful, then that’s reason enough.
- Stand up for what you believe in. You don’t need to rude about it, but don’t let someone walk all over you. Be passionate and be loyal.
- Don’t be afraid to say “I’m sorry”. Admit your mistakes, and own them. You will be a better person for it, and people will respect you for it.
- Blue and Green should never be seen. Just don’t do it. It looks awful.
- Pulling cats tails may seem like a good idea at the time, but you’ll change your mind when you’re covered from head to toe in scratches. Same goes for kitty accordion-ing.
- There is no excuse for B.O. Shower daily, wear clean clothes and deodorant. You’re better than that.
- Don’t shame people for their choices or beliefs. If someone is a vegetarian and you’re not, there is no reason to tease them or make fun of that choice. Unless someone is wearing a shirt proclaiming their Muggle-ness. See point 2. And tease them. (insert eye roll.)
- Spell check. Every time. There is no excuse for poor spelling or grammar. I really hope we are able to teach you how to communicate effectively, and how to spell properly. If not, listen to your computer and its squiggly lines. It’s trying to tell you something.
- Don’t give your kids stupid names. Don’t add letters in for the sake of it. Don’t make a name up. Don’t change S’s to Z’s. It looks dumb, and your kid will hate you for it.
- Dance or sing, at least once a day. It’s good for your soul.
- It’s okay to cry. Crying isn’t a sign of weakness. Sometimes life is overwhelming, and it is too much to contain.
- Breastfeeding is the normal way to feed an infant. I understand that there are a small number of women who cannot breastfeed, but this number is actually very small. Our society’s views on feeding infants and children is so skewed, that we see formula feeding as the normal way, or an equal way. I really hope I can bring my children up with the knowledge and facts on breastfeeding.
- There is nothing wrong with giving your Mum a kiss. There’s nothing wrong with kissing her in front of all of your friends. Your Mum has put up with a lot of crap, and all she wants in return is a kiss.
Of course there is so much more I want to teach my kids, to show them. This is just a small snapshot of an ever evolving and changing list.
I am so excited to see who my children will become, what they will do, what they will teach me.
Maybe one day soon I will write a blog on the 20 things they have taught me.